I don’t know what to think anymore. It’s not me; it’s that we live in a divided community that can’t make up its mind. Somebody once complained that I never looked her in the eye (I tried to look at her whole face at once to best detect her body language, punctuated by taking glances at the object we were discussing). Others told me it was polite to look into others’ eyes during conversation (I used to think of it as something romantic or at least intimate, not to be shared with mere acquaintances (except during staring contests)). So I tried it; I started looking people in the eyes when we conversed. Without exception, they all looked away very quickly, clearly uncomfortable. In the past, I have had people yell at me for staring at them (I wasn’t, it was a misunderstanding). Clearly, many people do not appreciate being looked at. Now I read articles suggesting that those avoiding eye contact are perceived as dishonest or insecure. I have also read articles suggesting the practice differs across cultures and has in part contributed to the racial strife in the United States. Even more recently, I have heard that some employers show preference for job applicants that make eye contact.
So…….are sunglasses not cool anymore?